“I believe that you’re great, that there’s something magnificent about you. Regardless of what has happened to you in your life, regardless of how young or how old you think you might be, the moment you begin to think properly, this something that is within you, this power within you that’s greater than the world, it will begin to emerge. It will take over your life. It will feed you, it will clothe you, it will guide you, protect you, direct you, sustain your very existence. If you let it! Now that is what I know, for sure.” – Michael Bernard Beckwith
Have an exceptional New Year!
So once a year you make a resolution to be better than you were last year. Great so you wait until the very first day of the next YEAR to wise up and stop being shitty? Yeah it seems like a smart idea to come up with some reason to want to better your life but in all honesty you know and I know that they simply won’t stick. Heck psychology even says it won’t stick especially if you are targeting something like quitting smoking or starting to work out. Why? Well it has to do with how we humans make changes in our lives. You see we don’t simply just up and make changes we have to go through a spiral upwards of sorts where we make changes in stages including preplanning, execution, maintenance and a few other stages I forget. So if you are planning a resolution don’t make it something you come up with on the spot some night once out of the year. Instead start planning it in advance including a proper plan you can stick to. Oh and don’t be to hard on yourself if you don’t make it. Simply retool your plan and try again.
As for me I don’t think I have any resolutions per se except to stay being creative in my work and life trying to eek out that left side of my noggin more and more. I’d like to think that being healthier is on my radar too but saying I have some sort of overarching plan is a little presumptuous. This year I can see utilizing the areas local transit more and relying less on my car (even though I already take the bus) and encouraging the family to do so as well. Either way I encourage you all to think about how you can make positive impacts in your life but not resolutions. A resolution is like saying you weren’t strong enough in the past and that January 1st has some magical component to it.
What is normal these days in terms of the holidays? Our past holiday season, yes I consider it just about over with perhaps New Years Eve posing as a little tip off to the end, has probably been the most different in the last decade for us. Not withstanding the birth of our children, the move to Seattle took everything and almost everyone we know about the holiday season and turn it upside down. Some of it was a little heart wrenching, lack of grandparents on the big day, and some of it ushered in new experiences. Most importantly we had quality time spent at home enjoying eachothers company and creating new traditions we could feel proud of.
A fair bit of the holiday season this year revolved around parties which all inevitably lead to copius amounts of drinking. In fact, one of the holiday parties we attended only had alcohol. While I am sure there was a kitchen somewhere I could have snagged a glass and drank from it was clear where I was allowed to be and where I wasn’t. Lets just say that was a quick party in and out sort of event. People need to remember that when hosting a party or any event alcohol needn’t be the primary focus. Somehow, somewhere along the line, alcohol became less and less of a drug, (yes it is actually a drug albeit legal) and more and more of simply an acceptable social norm. Now we’re the oddballs for not drinking out of conscious choice. It is a degenerative disease inducing drug which slowly kills you. It is also for sale, marketed to kids and worshiped by many. Waking up on Christmas day not hungover, feeling the pain and having genuine interactions with everyone around was and always will be the best part of not drinking.
While we didn’t get the white Christmas we were hoping for we did at least get rain and cold. It certainly didn’t stop us from getting out there riding bikes and shooting one another with Nerf bullets. Rock on. I think I can say that this holiday season established our new normal. Is it different? Sure. Will it always be different? I think you know who you’re talking to…
Snowflakes in the night…